To my mother, grandmother, aunts, sisters in law, mommy friends and all the mothers out there, today we celebrate us! Let us not be too hard on ourselves! We all rock!
I certainly did not think I would be lucky again to feel this way. It is early to tell how things will pan out, but I sure am putting myself out there again… scared out of my wits, but hopeful.
Update: this was definitely not the last post I wrote about him. But the good news is, I would like to believe that the have let him go now.
Update: I realized instead of staying up all night contemplating on what may or may not happen should I decide to get back in the game, I would be better off spending my time dreaming about the life I want for me and my daughter and making sure it comes true.
For now when I go to bed at night, I cannot help but wonder whether I am better off being alone, or put myself out there and risk it all again.
Update: I am now once again trying to muster up (lots of) courage and face my fears.
Update: after almost 2 years, I can finally see the light at the end of the tunnel. A lot of realizations during the pandemic (and lockdowns) made me see things differently. Including what really matters, the relationships we have with the people who matters to us. Spouse or partner may only be third on the list, but I am still on it.
Update: I still do not delete. It does not matter anyway, I have photos of men I have dated before my ex-fiance and I could not care less about them now, and do not recall much about their faces (unless I look at those snapshots). I reckon it depends on the person we are trying to forget, and not whether we have some things to remember them by or none.
Is monogamy too much to ask?
“People in love also have high levels of PEA, a natural amphetamine found in chocolate. It may be what helps fuel the sudden ability to go without sleep as you stay up all night with your lover.” I am sorry guys, it is not because we are so damn hot. 😄
Update: I am consciously making a decision to not live in the past and give love (and myself) another chance.
In the end, I think my biggest takeaway from the movie is that no matter how difficult and impossible it may seem, two people who are determined will really find a way to be together.
While we give when we love, I will argue that we get so much more. What makes it more wonderful is how it is not our (main) intentions at all but the by-product of doing something that gives us so much joy.
It kind of makes me wonder if feminism is the way to go. If a woman is not planning to get married anyway, then good for her! It is just sad how the successful, intelligent and well educated ones who are have bleaker prospects than their less successful, less intelligent and less educated counterparts. Do women really have to choose? I sure hope I can have both someday.
Update: I learned the hard way that unrequited love will never be.
When we do something for a person we feel and claim we love, may we do it willingly, not expect anything in return, and especially not make the other person feel like they owe us. Would it not be more wonderful if our actions are inspired by the glorious force of love instead of self sacrifice?
I do have a feeling that next year is gonna be so much better! Happy Valentine’s Day, Sophia! ❤
Yes, I definitely could. You? ❤
I choose love, relationship and marriage.
Update: pretty soon I will put this theory to the test. I really hope it works.
Update: I still do not drive, and looking for a new lasik surgery sponsor.
Most of my adult life, I have lived an aimless existence, not really knowing who I am and why I am. I have started looking for the answers, and pretty soon I will find them, if it’s the last thing I do. But I have no desire to live a depressing life, now where do I find joy?
What are your life defining moments? What did you learn, and how did this shape the person you have become?
What is your Option B that you unwillingly (and unwittingly) had to face?
I suppose it’s just plain stupid to not think at all. But where does one draw the line?
How do you define love?
Can you come up with an analogy?
Update: I have yet to meet someone who may not necessarily make love easy, but is definitely worth the problems and pain.
Know that I have not completely given up on you yet! I may not know when and where and how I will meet you, but we will! I may not believe in them entirely, but if you can just give me a sign… I would really appreciate it!
We have come a long way since, and to be honest, I am both excited and apprehensive to set you free. Until then, please be Mummy’s Valentine.
I love you, anak! Shout out to all the mothers out there! Fighting!
Please do not grow up too fast. Like I always tell you (like most parent), you will always be my baby. And I will always be your cool old woman.
Which is just as well. I have retired the kindle already.
The last time we have been out of the country was two years ago, when Sophia turned six. I hope I can show my daughter more of the world.
How do you teach your eight year old to choose well and face the consequences of her actions responsibly?
I hope she grows up not spending just for the sake of it. I hope she does not forget that there are things she do not need to live, that the best things in life are free and that less is better.
Yes, you will make your own way and make mistakes and get hurt in the process, I cannot shield you from any of those, nor do I desire to (I say this now, but the challenges will make you stronger and the pain will make you appreciate the good times more). My fervent wish for you (and myself) is that throughout your journey (and the rest of mine), you have someone (aside from your mother) who has always got your back (I do, but I am afraid I will not be around forever, at least 50 more years, eh?).
I love you, Sophia. Happy Birthday! ❤🥳
Every time my daughter wants something, she would ask if she could have it for her birthday, or for Christmas. I suppose I should be thankful there are only 2 special days in a year for her (and the next one is 11 months away whew!) Lol. Kidding aside, I am so glad I have not spoiled my daughter.
I already have four, any suggestions?
How do you teach a child acceptance?
I am glad you had so much fun today and that you have friends I hope you get to keep for life.
Where do I draw the line?
How did this happen? Did she pick up a vibe from me? Is it on our genes? Or are all kids like this?
With my personality, I sure will try to be my daughter’s best friend. After all, I am a cool mom! But where do I draw the line between the two roles?
Having a grateful heart and being vocal about it also makes the other person wants to give you more. It sure does make it a lot easier for me when you ask for a bit more expensive stuff, for I know you appreciate a candy that costs ten cents the same way as a 300 dollars Switch.
How do you teach kids resilience?
How do you explain to a 7 year old that it is not always sunshine and rainbows and butterflies?
Note to self: Sarah, whenever you have doubts, feel and acknowledge them. Somehow your daughter feels them, too. And it is ok. What is important is you try to find answers. And do not forget to have a grateful heart!
How do you make Math fun?
To my ex-boyfriend, whom I am forever indebted for the best gift I have ever been fortunate to receive, I wish you a happy birthday, health and peace. Please do not wait until it is too late to develop a relationship with your wonderful soon eight year old daughter.
How would you handle this?
To my parent friends, how do you guys do this?
I was again reminded that I should be careful about what I say and do as my little one can see and feel everything. For those with kids, maybe try to ask your child this question.
How do I top last year’s birthday present?
It’s funny how she got upset because she is not well enough to attend school. I hope this attitude continue until she’s done with university. I remember when I was in kindergarten, I spent an entire afternoon (the whole class) in the playground with a classmate.
As I look at her chubby cheeks as she sleeps, I cannot help but be grateful for my sunshine.
Seriously, who wore it better? 🤣
Today was so much fun for these kids. #ToABetterSarah #RaisingSophia
Today was so much fun for these kids. #ToABetterSarah #RaisingSophia
How did you start the new year?
Cheers to better days, my love! ❤❤❤
Ms. Philippines, Ms. United Kingdom and Ms. Venezuela! Sophia is grateful for her friends.
Sophia is grateful for her cousins. We love you all.
Thank you for the gift of friendship! I hope we remain friends for a long time! We love you and Tania!
What Christmas present do you cherish most?
Merry Christmas everyone! ❤
If Sophia has someone like you in her life, she would be so lucky. I love and appreciate you, Anty Baby! ❤
What keeps you busy these days?
Who do you miss?
How do you care for your eyes?
What is a good problem you had recently?
What is your biggest pet peeve when making a purchase?
Do you find time to write down your thoughts?
Have you taken time lately to get to know your neighbors?
Are you done with your Christmas shopping yet?
Does it feel like nothing makes sense right now?
Have you tried asking someone how he or she feels before reacting?
When was the last time you cried?
Is your child easy to please?
What’s the last book you’ve read?
Have you ever went to the groceries with a list, tell yourself you will buy only the least you can get away with and come home with even more?
Do you get enough sleep lately?
Where would you like to go once the borders open?
I need to look in the mirror of erised, sometimes I get confused about what I truly desire. Are you clear on yours?
Have you played anything lately?
What is your latest technology device?
What is your little thing for today?
What are you grateful for today?
Lately, I fire up coingecko up and hope for the best.
Disappoint them sometimes and show them it is part of life but they can choose not to let it ruin their day. And if they are patient enough, they might get more than what they had hoped for.
I have found this article very helpful and you might want to check it out, too. https://kraffeye.com/blog/how-to-protect-eyes-from-mobile-and-computer-screens
If you will buy a new #iPad, bring a copy of your (or your friend’s) child’s school documents to get a discount, and they allow up to 12 months 0% installment.
I have no idea. Got any tips?
Merry Christmas everyone!
Please ask Sophia.
Buy a DIY kit and follow the steps.
First, I teach by example, then I explicitly give her real-life lessons.
I do not know! Why do they have to hop on one leg anyway?