The One Where Anzeya Marie Turns 5

To be honest, I have not really had definite plans on how many kids I want when I was younger (not talking about 9 yo Sarah, but early to mid 20s maybe). Having Sophia is one of the best things that ever happened to me, and I could not imagine life without her now. With the pandemic however, I am even more unsure whether I want another child.

Being the youngest and the only girl of 4 siblings (and I remember asking my mother for a sister), I feel my daughter when she tells me she wish she has a brother or a sister. I usually apologize to her and say I am not ready for another child, and I mean I do want to give her a best friend, but I definitely will not even consider having another baby by myself.

I am aware of her need (yes, not just want) of a playmate, so pre pandemic I made sure she went out a lot and meet and play with other kids every day. When we went out, I always encourage her to say hello and talk to other people (yep, not just kids her age, but people in general). I suppose the silver lining is we were able to develop her social intelligence that way. Maybe if she has a sibling, she will not be as friendly (but then again knowing her mother, maybe not a problem).

Two years ago when we were considering moving to Singapore, I was so glad I have family there. Zeya would have been an hour and a half away (if put into perspective really, Makati to Ortigas sometimes takes longer pre pandemic), but it is nice to know that she has got a cousin in a foreign country (it will be challenging if this becomes a requirement in the future).

Sophia with my cousins’ kids.
Photos taken in Singapore (May 2019), Malaysia (Nov 2019) and Manila (Dec 2018).
Sorry I do not take great photos, I’m a writer (wannabe) not a photographer.

Today is Zeya’s 5th birthday and it is Sophia’s pleasure to record this video for her adorable younger cousin. She chose her dress and did her hair herself (something to do with anime, apparently). May you have many more birthdays to come, and we hope to see you soon!

I apologize for the low quality video,
this is why I cannot be a vlogger.

To the parents who have only one child, how do you deal with it?

#ToABetterSarah #RaisingSophia #FromZeroToHero

16 Comments

  1. Forestwood says:

    If you have a big gap between siblings they seem to get along better. There seems to be a lot of sibling rivalry with kids close in age. If the gap is too large, there isn’t any common ground as they grow. Personalities come in to the equation too. My boys did not get along as they grew up as they were poles apart. It was company for them to have a brother, but that was all. We worked hard to broker and negotiate better communication between them, but once they reached adolescence it is out of one’s control. My husband though got along well with all his five other siblings.

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    1. How far apart did you have your boys? Based on my observations, siblings with small age gaps have closer relationships. Yes, they fight a lot, but it’s like only lasts for 5 minutes, then they play with each other again. It’s like having a frenemy or something.

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      1. Forestwood says:

        3 years. Then another 8 years

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        1. I think the 8 year gap is a bit challenging because growing up, the kids will have different interests already. As adults, however, I reckon they will be fine. 😊
          I better get a move on if I want another one then. But what to do, the pandemic is far from over. 😢

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          1. Forestwood says:

            The pandemic does complicate your decision, Sarah, but you will manage the situation the best way you can, at the time, whenever that time is. I think Covid is some form will hang around for some years, but hopefully the nastier variants will die out. 8 years was about 3 years too much for me, but that is the way it worked out. It was harder for the reason you said, particularly socialising with friends who had kids as they were either younger ones and the older ones were bored, or the older ones with a younger kid around. Plus you have a variety of toys. If they all are at the same level, you don’t have highchairs at the same time as basketball hoops!

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            1. I remember wanting twins before. So I only go through sleepless nights and all that once. I hope even if covid becomes common like flu, the world can be a little like what we knew before. I miss traveling and I hate the fact that I cannot move. So very frustrating!

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              1. Forestwood says:

                In the scheme of things, it is not too long and I feel sure we will be able to move and travel again. In the meantime, the universe seems hell bent on teaching us to appreciate what we have immediately around us. It helps lessen my frustration if I see it in those terms.
                Twins? Egad… no. One at a time is enough. Twins is double the trouble. I think of feeding times and then whether you should keep them together or separate them at school/sport.

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                1. I know we will be able to move and travel again, I just really hope soon! Tell me about it! I have tried gratitude, meditation, exercise, journaling, and all that crap I did not bother before the pandemic. Lol.
                  Twins may indeed be double the trouble, but at least we just go through it once? Oh if I will have twins, definitely same school but as to sports etc, I think they will still have different interests.

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                  1. Forestwood says:

                    Crossing my fingers for a multiple pregnancy. I knew a lady who had triplets. That was a challenge as you only have two hands!

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                    1. Hahaha. Thank you, my dear. I am not set on having twins yet. Lol

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                    2. Forestwood says:

                      Okay. Fingers uncrossed. Lol

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  2. I’m not a parent yet and even then, I don’t think I’ll have more than one child. Sophia sings beautifully. She’s got a lovely voice. Happy Birthday, Anzeya! May God bless you.

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    1. Thank you. I do want to give her a brother or a sister, but definitely under different circumstances.

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      1. I hope you’ll be able to figure all of it out

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        1. Trying, my dear! Hope it does not take long though. 🙂

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          1. All the best! 😃

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