Ever since I wrote about Demon Slayer I decided to watch movies (in addition to read) for self development. The obvious advantage would be the shorter time and the less brain cells needed (thank goodness the movie is not very technical) to learn something. I had to Google “self-development movies Netflix” and top 1 is The Pursuit Of Happyness. Now I write about “The Theory of Everything”.
I have a bachelor’s degree in Physics and I find it strange yet comforting how familiar the names Rutherford and Schrodinger etc are. I have also been watching The Big Bang Theory lately and to be honest, I was expecting Sheldon Cooper to call Stephen Hawking or Jim Parson make a guest appearance.
1. Wit. Smart is definitely the new sexy. He probably got Jane at tide. If a man tells me about how the fluorescence in the washing powder caught by the UV light makes men’s shirtfronts and bow ties glow more than the women’s dresses, I would be putty in his hands. And forget about the birth and death of the stars.
2. Tenacity. What I am going through right now is nothing compared to what Stephen experienced. I may not have the intellect of a theoretical physicist, but I have full control of my body. If it feels like it takes all of my courage to get up in the morning, it literally is the case for him.
3. Love. If marrying someone who is given 2 years to live is not love, I do not know what is. Jane stays with Stephen for 30 years. If his medical condition is not enough to scare me away (given my general aversion to hospitals, doctors, blood, etc), raising 3 kids alone and looking after an incapacitated husband (without househelp) would probably do the trick.
4. Humility. The first three chapters of his doctoral dissertation were thrashed. It is his 4th and last that made him a doctor of Physics. Given his condition, he is still one of the greatest minds that ever lived. And if he can make a mistake, what chance do I have? To err is human.
5. Resilience. The scene where he crawls up the stairs after walking out (not in a rude way) on his celebratory dinner is heart breaking. I cannot begin to imagine the frustration he must have felt about being robbed of the simple and mundane daily activities most of us take for granted. When he saw his young son Robert at the top of the stairs, he must have felt cheated out of the opportunity to play with him like other fathers and sons.
6. Curiosity. In his quest for the one single elegant equation to explain everything, he is able to come up with theories and postulations in the most unexpected situations. How he comes up with a brilliant idea while unsuccessfully trying to wriggle his way into his sweater is pure genius! When people look at flames, they usually just stare blankly at them, or in the eyes of their lovers they are trying to seduce maybe.
7. Humor. If I cannot be fortunate enough to be with someone who is both smart and funny, I would definitely go for the latter. I suppose I can just watch FRIENDS to get my daily dose of laughter, but it is nice if my partner can make me cry laughing! No wonder Stephen married twice!
8. Hope. When asked “You have said you do not believe in God. Do you have a philosophy of life that helps you?”
It is clear that we are just an advanced breed of primates on a minor planet orbiting around a very average star in the outer suburb of one among 100 billion galaxies. But ever since the dawn of civilization, people have craved for an understanding of the underlying of the world. There ought to be something very special about the boundary conditions of the universe, and what can be more special than that there is no boundary? And there should be no boundary to human endeavor. We are all different. However bad life may seem, there is always something you can do and succeed at. While there is life, there is hope.Stephen W. Hawking
9. Second chances. What Stephen and Jane had was, without a doubt, true love. But like how some good things must end, so did their marriage. It is nice to know they remained good friends after the divorce, and eventually found someone else. Length (and in this case also depth) is not a measure, and reason, why a person should stay in a relationship if he or she is no longer happy.
10. Live. It is amazing how at 21 years old, he is given two years to live and died at the age of 76. He lived a full life with his wife, 3 children and love for science. If my days are numbered, I probably would do things differently. Would you?
If a man who cannot move and is dependent on his wheelchair and talks like a robot can make phenomenal contribution to science, what is my excuse? Just to be clear (and not to sound negative) but I am not talking about science, I have given up on my dreams of joining NASA and exploring outer space a long time ago. I am talking about the other little things that I can make a difference in.
In my own little ways, with my weaknesses and strengths, what is that something I can succeed at?
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