In connection with my acceptance post yesterday, here is an article I have written March 30 this year:
Acceptance and Nonjudgement (Maybe)
“The deeper interconnectedness of all things and events implies that the mental labels of “good” and “bad” are ultimately illusory. They always imply a limited perspective and so are true only relatively and temporarily. This is illustrated in the story of a wise man who won an expensive car in a lottery. His family and friends were very happy for him and came to celebrate. “Isn’t it great!” They said. “You are so lucky.” The man smiled and said, “Maybe.” For a few weeks he enjoyed driving the car. Then one day a drunken driver crashed into his new car at an intersection and he ended up in the hospital with multiple injuries. His family and friends came to see him and said, “That was really unfortunate.” Again the man smiled and said, “Maybe.” While he was still in the hospital one night there was a landslide and his house fell into the sea. Again his friends came the next day and said, “Weren’t you lucky to have been here in the hospital.” Again he said, “Maybe.”
The wise man’s “maybe” signifies a refusal to judge anything that happens. Instead of judging what is, he accepts it and so enters into conscious alignment with the higher order. He knows that often it is impossible for the mind to understand what place or purpose a seemingly random event has in the tapestry of the whole. But there are no random events, nor are there events or things that exist by and for themselves, in isolation.”
We just came back from a beach resort where mobile signal seemed to be a thing of the future. Hence, the end to a 4 and a half month streak of daily Facebook post. Anyway, that is not what this one is about. I was not able to fully appreciate the place and be present in the moment because I was anxious. Last month, I was looking forward to a less strict community quarantine, but the exact opposite happened! Metro Manila and the neighboring areas were put to ECQ instead.
Is this a bad thing? Maybe. It has been more than a year now since the lockdown started, and if I did not make a conscious effort to manage somehow, I am certain I’d go crazy now. Instead of acting smart and always looking at why things happen, “maybe” I should be more like the wise man and try not to judge the merit of an event happening and just accept. Accept the fact that there are certain things my mind cannot fully fathom. Accept that there are things beyond my control. Accept that there are things I cannot do anything about but accept.
This will definitely take time, but I will work on it. Whenever something happens, I will pause for a minute, not resist (“is that so?”) and not judge (“maybe”). Would you like to try with me?