Written February 13, 2021:
I am aware that I have a flirty personality. Being a great conversationalist, coupled with my quick wit, people often misunderstand me. It comes very naturally to me, sometimes I am seriously surprised when that happens. I am genuinely interested to get to know people and other people take that the wrong way. Where does one draw the line between being friendly and being flirty?
One time, an ex boyfriend (and his son) stayed with his ex girlfriend’s (and family’s) house in Germany. Other people might find it weird but I was not jealous at all. I would jokingly tell my friends, between me and a boyfriend, chances are higher of me flirting (albeit unintentionally) than him. Fortunately, I’ve never been cheated on (none that I know of anyway). That may be why I am not the jealous type. And also because I know that a person may playfully flirt with other people but would not cheat.
Linda (from the book) found herself one day feeling unhappy with her life. She felt guilty because from the outside, her life could not be more perfect. She’s got a doting husband, two adorable children, a good job and help (a Filipino nanny!), among other things. They live in Switzerland, one of the safest places in the world, and they are pretty wealthy. Anyway, she found herself cheating on her husband with an ex-boyfriend.
The ending was a bit anti climactic. I’ve heard more than once people say, “it’s ok if my spouse cheat on me, as long as at the end of the day, he or she comes home to me.” When a man cheats, it’s almost expected. But when a woman cheats, she is condemned by the society.
I always tell a man I’m dating he could cheat, as long as I don’t find out about it. But to be honest, I would not know what I would do if that actually happens. Will I be able to forgive him? More importantly, will I be able to forget? For how can I trust a person after that?
I have never been in a relationship that lasted longer than 2 years, so I could not say from experience, but I often hear people say that it could get boring and keeping the fire burning is hard work. I sometimes wonder if I find myself in a tricky situation, would I be able to resist the temptation?
Yes, I definitely could. You? ❤