I could not agree more. And yet sometimes, we give everything we’ve got and still it is not enough. On the little occasions that it is however, it is ironic how in the process of giving, we get so much. Genuinely loving another human being (and this is not only applicable to romantic partners but to children and family as well) gives us so much joy.
I watch my daughter (not unlike when I look at my lover) and my heart is filled with indescribable joy and awe at how I was able to raise such an adorable child (or how such an amazing man is “mine” at the moment). I hear my daughter laugh (not unlike my lover’s praise) and my heart is filled with immense pleasure and gratitude at how happy she seems (or how delighted at me he seems). I hug my daughter (not unlike when I hold my lover’s hand) and my heart is filled with incomparable peace and serenity at the thought that all is (or will be) well.
While we give when we love, I will argue that we get so much more. What makes it more wonderful is how it is not our (main) intentions at all but the by-product of doing something that gives us so much joy.