I understand that being an only child is tough. And the lockdown certainly is not helping. I am not sure if this is something new, but I recently noticed (hard not to when your child is wailing) that Sophia cries when a friend leaves after playing for a few hours (and more so after a sleep over).
I have spoken to her a couple of days ago and told her to be glad it happened, not sad that it ended. I did not realize it then, but tonight it struck me how I am the same. Indeed, the fruit does not fall far from the tree. What amazes me more is how she has not seen me really, but nevertheless we react the same way.
Desperately trying to console my daughter, I wondered what I could say to make her feel better (while hugging her, of course). First thought came to mind was to relate to what she’s feeling. I told her I know exactly how she feels. I am not cut out for a long distance relationship, and the only reason I remember not talking to my ex-fiance for days before is my frustration at not being together (especially during times when I needed him most). Every month, I would go through a vicious cycle of looking forward to seeing him again, then trying to just enjoy our precious time together without counting the days (and hours) until we have to separate again and bawling my eyes out (one time in a busy airport and I could not care less that people were staring).
I asked Sophia if she remembers and she said not. Maybe she has not seen me (or does not recall) cry on those instances. I am ashamed (and guilty) to say that I have lost my patience. I told her I will not have her friends over if it only makes her feel sad and she cried even harder. After I calmed myself down, I apologized to her and tuck her in to sleep. I hope next time I will be able to deal with it better.
I know it is going to be twice as hard and challenging, but times like these make me want to give her a baby brother or sister. I sure hope I still can (nobody’s getting any younger) when given the opportunity someday.
How did this happen? Did she pick up a vibe from me? Is it on our genes? Or are all kids like this?